I read alot, I do. I love my books. I love finding love all over again. I love how a couple has to fight for their love just like in real life. I love how it's not all fairy tales but how the characters have real problems to deal with. BUT I've been seeing a common problem in all of these books, the heroine is usually a skinny thing with a round ass and perfect tits. Ummm, please raise your hand if when you were in your twenties you had the size 4 waist with a great ass and perfect tits. Yeah, that's what I thought we aren't in the majority huh? So why must every girl in these books be that perfect girl!? We are just as sexy as those perfect girls. We go through the same emotional shit as they do. We want to be loved. So why aren't there more books about girls like us? Now don't think I'm saying EVERY book out there is about a skinny little thing because we do have Emma, Peaches, Anna, and Mia. And I LOVE those girls for being like us! For embracing themselves! I and love their men even more for loving women like us.
Have you seen the dove "Real Beauty" commercials?
They show you real women with real bodies. Not what Hollywood wants you to see. And these women are absolutely fucking drop dead gorgeous!
So I want YOU to know. Yes you, the girl with stretch marks, cellulite, round tummy, and big thighs...... YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL! Fuck what society says. Fuck what those books say. YOU ARE PERFECT and you deserved to be loved with as much passion as any one else. You deserve to have a man fall deeply crazy in love with you but you also deserve to love yourself. Look in the mirror tell yourself you are beautiful. Say it with cojones and believe that shit!
So I want YOU to know. Yes you, the girl with stretch marks, cellulite, round tummy, and big thighs...... YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL! Fuck what society says. Fuck what those books say. YOU ARE PERFECT and you deserved to be loved with as much passion as any one else. You deserve to have a man fall deeply crazy in love with you but you also deserve to love yourself. Look in the mirror tell yourself you are beautiful. Say it with cojones and believe that shit!
You're probably thinking, alright who is this bitch telling me I'm fucking beautiful. Well, I'm going to put myself out there are say...Hey look at me! I am not a size 2. Hell I'm not even a size 12! Fuck yeah I wish I was a size 12 but this is ME!! Curves, bumps, and rolls. This is what a woman looks like. I am not a perfect Hollywood size 2, I got love handles (you can even see them in the picture below). Do I hate my body? Yes! Do I love my body? YES!!! Do I have days where I don't even want to face the public? Yes!! But this is me and I love me! I have embraced, accepted and finally loved Me! It wasn't easy. No way, not with the way society thinks a girl should look but this is how I look and I love it!
Now I ask, authors can we have more books with real girls?
"I'd come so far in the last few years, with my body image. I'd come to accept that I'd never have a thigh gap-that triangle of space between the upper legs that skinny girls have. I had a health body image that functioned well, and took me places, and even gave me pleasure. I enjoyed my curves, and was only a little self-conscious about certain views while nude-something even my skinny girlfriends said they felt, too"
-Peaches-
Stardust by Mimi Strong
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Love the post!! Sharing to my FB page now. :)
Beautifully said!!!
Well said girlfriend....well said!!! Oh and I love ya too beautiful!!!!!
I rock the chub rub (no thigh gap for me). Sing it loud, sing it proud sister.
You are gorgeous inside and out. Much Love!
Love this!! Much love beautiful :)
Beautiful! And Well Said.... Totally In Awe Of You Right Now!
You know I used to have that thigh gap you speak of... size zero 98lbs soaking wet.. skin and bones, but you know I don't think that's sexy. I'm now a size 10 ugh yes 10sizes bigger... how I wish I were a 5 or even an 8 hell yes but I don't dare wish to be a zero with the thigh gap. Ill rock my chub and curves and rolls and if you don't like it. Well just don't look at me ;-)
Love this post. I am a mom of two boys and I'm skinny so the weight thing doesn't get to me like others I'm sure but my issue is the boobs. I almost hate hearing the male POV in books when they have to describe what the gal looks like cause its either they have tits that are huge and to die for or their boobs are described as just enough or slightly small but enough for me ... I don't know I have boob issues not weight issues but I'm with you ... we need more REAL literary heroines!
You go girl!
Love it...and it is a shame that many of us woman want to be skinny. I for one have been one of those woman. But I figured if my husband likes the way I am then so what. I need to learn to love myself the size that I am.
You, my dear blogger bitch, are absolutely beautiful. I think I just fell in girl love with you a little more than I already was.
Love your post lady... I was a skinny witch before i had my boys... And those boys blessed the stick with a little boobs and butt with some kick ass curves... I will NEVER be 110lbs again... I can't get below a size 10 no matter how much weight i lose from having my big headed boys lol... I rock a size 12/14 pretty awesome and hubby tells me i can't get rid of boobs or butt :) and he has been with me size i was 16... I am now turning 30 and even though I miss skinny me sometimes when i see cute little things i think hell I did a pinup shoot and looked pretty damn good and hubby is proud to have me. So Curves are awesome and no matter what size a person is if they believe they are beautiful then they are beautiful because God made us all.
I love this post. I love my body, with rolls and all, and I can't agree more that it's a little tiring to always be reading about these "perfect" girls.
I will say that I think some authors think that no one will want to read a book where the lead character is bigger because of the stigma related to being on the chubby side, which is a shame.
Also, thanks for the recs!
That was one of the best posts I've read! Very honest and extremely open! When I was in my twenties and in college I was the perfect size 4 big boobs and I thought I was the shiz! Now that I have gotten married and had a baby (well 2 year old) I, ahem, have gained a litt...lot of weight and what you wrote was very encouraging! I too wish more authors would use real sizes in books, because EVERY woman is gorgeous! You never know how many women you helped with this one blog post. Keep doing what you are doing, you are awesome!! BTW I love that pic of you! Hottie! I need to get some of those done for the hubs! Thanks again!
Rock on, beautiful! I love this post! You're right. The book world needs a lot more realism where bodies are concerned. Now you've challenged me to think up a kickass story about a curvy woman. I'll see what I can do. :-)
Thanks for putting this out there. Sharing to my page now...
Excellent post! I just finished a series of novellas with heroes and heroines in all different sizes, races and varying ages. I believe beauty is a cornucopia!
U must must read Kristen Ashley books...she is all about real women. Luv her.. My favorite.. Great post.. We are ll different.. Some just born skinny some just born curvy.. We all all sexy the way we were born not the way oximetry says sexy is...curv is making a comeback
THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU!!!! This post is freaking amazing!! And it's about time that someone posted it, so thank you again for doing that!!
Don't get me wrong, I love reading books as well, but I completely agree that it get tiresome reading about pretty much the same girl over and over!
Hopefully we will get some "new" curvier women now!!! <3
Wonderful! Thanks so much for sharing what I've been thinking for years!!!! You're my new hero :D
Beautifully said. And I totally feel ya sista. I've been looking for more body realism in books too. And might I add you are beatiful. I love your confidence and your honesty. I've always been the thick girl (big butt & big thighs) and loved my curves but after having my daughter 8 yrs ago my body went nuts and I couldn't lose the baby weight and even started gaining more. I totally lost my confidence, where I use to love family photos now I run from the camera. I'm working on accepting things and having a more positive self imagine but it difficult. Thanks for the bravery and much love!
You are gorgeous!! Woo hooo!!
You are gorgeous!! Thank you for spreading the good word about beautiful women of all sizes. :)
You know Queen said it best "Fat Bottomed girls you make the rocking world go round"!
well said.
Absolutely fantastic. Love it. And you are beautiful darling. You are rocking that picture like a pin up!
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